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Returning to healthy eating.

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While on holiday we pigged out. It is part of being on holiday isn’t it?

Getting in and out of the swimming pool every day made me realise I have let my good deeds of last year slide so much they were out of sight. Hubby agreed when I said we needed to get back to healthy eating. I also need to get back to exercising – Hubby cycles 15 miles a day so that’s not a problem for him.

Coming home to the Easter weekend, meant there was a lot of chocolate in the house – even though I didn’t get an egg, when I gave Hubby his, he asked if I had bought one for him to give to me!!!! It wouldn’t be fair for the boys to have these delights in front of them and tell them they were unable to eat them, so instead, we have told them they can have a little each day. My theory being once they are gone they are gone, and I wont be buying sweets for in the house, so if they aren’t there they can’t have them!!!

Yesterday I got on the wii-fit for the first time in months and to say it was hard work would be an understatement! At the same time though it felt good too, and I must try to find half an hour a day to do it. I have checked the times of open sessions at the local swimming pool and they have morning sessions most days, so I intend to try to get there at least once a week. I used to swim every morning before work and found it a really invigorating way to start the day.

I have knocked the dust off the myfitnesspal.com app, as I found it really helpful to track what I was eating last year. It is a great app where you can see exactly what food you are taking and the calories from it. It really makes you think about if you need the snack in the evening!!!

Today Hubby is working from home, and so I have gone for a healthy lunch for us. I have made Pea and Herb soup with oat cakes. Now, anyone that knows me, is well aware I don’t do soup, unless in is comes in a tin and is bright orange. I was therefore making the soup for Hubby and Old person, but when I tasted it to check the seasoning I was amazed how lovely it is, and have decided to give it a go – I must be getting brave in my old age!

Pea and Vegetable Soup
1 tbsp. Olive Oil
1 clove garlic – crushed
480g Frozen peas
1 tbsp. cornflour
500ml vegetable stock
30 g fresh coriander
15 g fresh mint – I didn’t have fresh so used a teaspoon of dried
salt and pepper

Heat the oil and add the garlic and peas. Stir until the peas have defrosted.
Mix the cornflour with 1 tbsp. of cold water and add to the pan.
Slowly add the stock, stirring well.
Bring to a simmer for 15 minutes.
Put into a liquidiser with the herbs and seasoning.
Warm through.

Oatcakes
115g oatmeal
1/4 tsp salt
pinch of bicarbonate of soda.
1 tbsp. oil
3 tbsp. hot water

Mix dry ingredients.
Add the oil, and half the water. Mix well.
Add more water to form a soft but crumble dough.
Kneed until smooth.
Cut dough into 2 pieces and roll each into a round.
Cut each circle into quarters.
Put into a dry frying pan over a medium low heat. cook for a couple of minutes on each side.

You piece of education for the day is that the quarters are called FARLS. You probably knew this but I didn’t and so thought it was interesting!!!

I will update you in a few weeks about if I keep I the healthy eating, and defiantly if I get back into he exercise but I feel I need to!

Now to go and eat this soup!!!

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The OT

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Yesterday was D’s long-awaited trip to the occupational therapist. I say long-awaited as it was last June the whole process began to get him looked at after the school thought it would be a good idea because of his wonky fingers – which have since been diagnosed as hyper mobility.

His appointment was after lunch, so he had the morning at school, and wasn’t too happy at that prospect! I think the thought of seeing yet another new person to prod him about was worrying him ever so slightly. He was fine though when I picked him up, and despite the rain, we went to have a picnic with Hubby – he works in a building right next door to the hospital.

As the time of the appointment approached, he began to ask what they would be doing to him – I of course couldn’t give him an exact answer, just that it was to try to get him some help for his hands because of his funny joints. He was happy with that explanation.

We were a little early and he was happy to play a few races on the Mario Kart wii game in the waiting room, but held tight to my hand once his name was called.

The occupational therapist was only about 12 – I think that is a real sign I am getting old when everyone seems to be so much younger than me!, but she was very pleasant, and spoke to D, only including me in the questions when he wasn’t being responsive. When asked if he knew why he was there he said “because I can do this”, and proceeded to do his party piece of bending his fingers the wrong way – makes my stomach churn every time he does it!

There was a second OT in the room, observing from behind, and making notes. It was a huge room and we were sat in the corner, and I don’t know about D but it did feel intimidating being observed from both sides!

Firstly they had him doing some writing, as this is our major concern. His school work suffers because he finds holding pencils so painful. We have tried different styles of grips, as has his teacher, so he was showing the OT which ones he had used in her huge array of different styles. She had him choose his favourite and set him about writing his name a few times. As usual he was gripping his pencil so hard his fingers were turning white, and his pressure was causing the paper to go through. Seeing him do this, it is amazing the things you just accept and not realise they are a little out of the ordinary! She then gave him a sloping board to use, it meant that not just the angle of his hand changed, but that of his whole body as he had to improve his posture to use it! Straight away, the writing he did was much less pushed through the paper. They decided he should be given a board to take to school to use.

He then had to demonstrate his use of scissors, which is something he usually looks so dangerous doing as he fumbles with, but instead today, he was cutting very patiently, and looked as if he had no problem there.    He so wants to please people that he made sure he did what he was asked to do, even though it was at half the speed and potentially painful.

Using cutlery has always been an issue for him, and he much prefers to use his hands.  We have not been sure if this is because of his fingers, or a sensory thing to do with his aspergers. They tried him with various styles of cutlery, having him cut up play-doh sausages, and he said it was easier with proper ones. I do think it was more a case of the chunky handles looked like ones he had when he was just starting to learn to use them so he didn’t want “baby things”. He was told to remember to make sure his hands were in the correct position – which he was shown, and then cutting would be much easier for him.

He then was shown an easier way to tie his shoe laces.   When we have tried  before,  he has ended up saying his hands are sore from trying – never convinced if its a reason or an excuse.    This way was much easier, and we will definitely be practicing with this – if he can master laces it will be so much easier to get shoes that will fit his ridiculously wide feet.

Then came buttons.     Large ones he was fine with on a garment on the table in front of him, but as soon as it got to smaller ones he was fumbling.     It was suggested a way to make it easier was to replace the tread with elastic so the button moves more to get it through the hole, so I might have to get Old person on a sewing task!    Another idea was that he always did his buttons in front of a mirror so he could actually see what he was doing – painfully simple but something we had not thought to try!

He was then taken to the matted area to test his core strength, because of his clumsiness.    His balance was dire – which I knew it would be.    I did have to remind her it was just 8 weeks since his knee op as he looked in pain as he was asked to go onto all fours!        It was suggested that he had additional sessions which are about core strengthening.     I think it will be really good for him, so readily agreed to that.     She had him trying to walk along a line on the floor, going toe to heel.   It was one of the funniest things I’ve seen in a long time as his feet were nowhere near the line however hard he tried!

They had seen enough, and decided to summarize what had been seen.

They said he needs to slow down when doing tasks – I didn’t laugh out loud at this but D doesn’t do slow, once his brain gets going, his body just has to keep up or we go into meltdown.     Their reasoning is that if he thinks more about doing things correctly it will help his body know what it should be doing.   Great theory which we will try to implement.

Then came the bomb shell.    They think its important he learns to type as the more writing he does at school the more pain he will be in!      I asked about exercises that might help strengthening his hands, and basically they said that just keep using them!     We were given a pile of handouts about tasks and games that were good for honing fine motor skills, we will defiantly be having a go at some of them.

So how do I feel now.     As usual, you come out of these thing feeling as if you are a failure as a parent.    It is nobodies fault, just the nature of sessions where strangers are telling you what you should be doing with your child, or what you have been doing wrong!      I do think its a positive getting the board to help with his writing – I did have a chuckle when thinking when I was at school, all desks were angled anyway!     I am upset that they feel becoming keyboard confident is a priority because they feel he wont improve his hand strength.      I think it is something we continue to work on in the home, and I will just keep making the play-doh for him to spend hours squeezing to try to strengthen those muscles.    The core building sessions sound as if they will be good for him, and if he can strengthen his core it has to be good for his legs.

For now though, it’s another box ticked and we move on.

Return to normality.

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Today we return to normality.

While a lot of the country still have their feet up with the 4 day weekend, we are all back to the grind stone with Hubby returning to work and the kids back to school – there is much negative comment in the playground about the kids going back to-day here in the shire where the city kids have the day off.

These holidays seemed to have passed pretty easily, which is something I don’t often say after a two-week school break.     These shorter holiday usually really mess with M’s head because he just gets used to the change in routine before its time to get back to it.

During the first week, we kept ourselves busy with something planned for every day for the boys to do.    It is a very fine line to walk between keeping them busy enough to allow their minds to keep turning, but not so busy that they don’t realise they are meant to be chilling!

Week two was at Haven at Haggerston Castle.    It was a lovely break, and the weather was good, not warm, but dry and that’s what is important.    The boys love going to Haven.      It is great they have an environment they feel safe in.       I think we all enjoyed the break and came back feeling relaxed.

Now I am not saying we haven’t had our moments.    M has taken to keep telling D that he wishes he was in a grave.    I am not sure where this has come from, or where he might have heard something along these lines, but I find it totally vile, and punishments have been handed out accordingly.      D gets enough bullying out of the house, without feeling he gets more of the same when at home.   M has to learn quickly this type of comment is not acceptable.

D has been on an emotional rollercoaster in the past few days.     Something is worrying him but he doesn’t seem capable of vocalizing what it is.     He will sudden look really sad, and say he wants to cry.     He of course gets big hugs to make him feel safe and secure.   Sometimes this will calm him, but other times the tears have followed and he sobs uncontrollably.        He cant say what the matter is, just that he feels like crying.     Now, I am a great believer that a good cry can help to make things better, and so I would never tell him to stop crying, but it can be quite upsetting for me to see my baby breaking his heart with no rhyme or reason for it.       All we can do is let him have these moments in the hopes that they help him to sort out whatever is going on in his head so he can tell us when we he feels ready to do so.        This melancholy mood he is in, is also effecting his sleep.    Saturday night he was up three times, just needing cuddles  – I just need sleep at 3am, but he is always my priority.       It is so hard to know what to do or how to help him when he says he doesn’t know what is wrong.

Today the kids didn’t want to get organised for school.     M reluctantly got organised, but D was adamant he didn’t want to go as he doesn’t like school – that isn’t really the truth as he loves learning and totally adores his teacher, but his unhappiness is being thrown towards something tangible, and that is school.    I got him dressed and organised but walking up the road was a nightmare.   The walk takes a bout 5 minutes, but with the kids it’s usually 10, however this morning, M went on with the crowd we walk with, as D was in super go slow mood, and just held my hand as tightly as possible.       When I eventually got him into his line, he looked so sad that one Mum actually asked me what was wrong with him!     His head was down and he was focusing about the end of his nose.       I am sure once he was in and saw all of his friends he would have been fine, but it really tugs at your heart-strings to see your child looking so unhappy and knowing there is nothing you can do about it.

I am hoping they have both had a good day, and are ready to fight me over doing their homework!!!!