We have made it to the half way point of the school holidays.
We have to be thankful to have made it this far without too many major incidents.
The holidays are now beginning to take their toll on everyone, especially M whose behaviour is deteriorating rapidly.
The first week and a half were good, as we were away and therefore busy. Neither boy had time to be too fractious with each other. They had plenty of fresh air and exercise and that meant they were tired enough to sleep well. A winning combination.
Then this last week, we have started the slippery slope of holiday boredom. The weather taking a turn for the worst hasn’t been helpful as it has meant we have had to be doing things indoors, and on the whole that has meant in the house, as going out to do things inside ends up very expensive. I have tried my best to keep them occupied as we play games, do crafts, and I also get them to help with household tasks. They have also had their downtime and we have watched plenty of movies. It is a hard-line to walk, the one that says keep them busy but remember they are on holiday so need some freedom to relax.
M in particular finds it difficult to comprehend the lack of routine. It confuses him greatly. He likes his routine, no, he needs routine. Routine keeps him focused. It helps his brain to function when he understands what way the day is going to pan out. Change is really not good for him as he finds processing random information hard going and this is when his behaviour becomes unacceptable. Yesterday he wanted to play with D’s tablet, and rather than ask to do so, just bite D to get it away from him. This is a new behaviour for M as we’ve never had a problem with him biting before. Once D loosened his grip on the tablet through the shock of being bitten M was away with it. When confronted, he threatened to throw it and break it. Needless to say it was removed from him, and luckily undamaged. He though had no comprehension that he had done anything wrong. When spoken to about the incident he got very aggressive in his tone with an attitude that said he believed he was the wronged party! He went to bed last night loosing his television allowance. The easiest way to describe his general behaviour just now, would be to liken it to that of a teenager. He is stroppy, and cant speak without sneering and giving a lot of back chat. I wasn’t wanting to have to deal with teenage tantrums for another few years! I dread to think how bad they will be then compared to now. I imagine by the time we get those, I will have been used to his slippery slope of bad behaviour.
D is just very grumpy, and needs to be handled with kid gloves, so really there is nothing too different with his behaviour.
We will try our best to get through the next three weeks without actually killing each other! The boys have to learn what is and isn’t allowed in society. It is my job to make sure that bad behaviours are kept to a minimum. Biting his brother is bad enough, but should he do it to another child would be terrible. He has to understand that society doesn’t allow him to do these sort of things. We are lucky that D so far can contain himself when out of the house, so we need to keep making sure that continues.
Oh well, half way gone, roll on 20 August!