Tooth ache


Anyone who has ever had tooth ache knows how painful it is.     I have always had crumbly teeth, and so the dentists I have visited over the years have become almost family friends with the number of appointments I have had.

Anyone with kids knows the problems there are in teaching a child to clean their teeth properly.    Then, once they have been taught how to do it, to make sure it is done to the highest standard twice a day.

As the boys are growing up, they are now becoming more aware of themselves and so will lock the bathroom door more often than not.     It is therefore very difficult to know what is going on in there.      It has therefore become quite a fight to get them to not just clean their teeth, but to do them properly.     M makes a big point of coming to breath in my face afterwards so I can smell his mintiness!!

I always use my constant visits to the dentist as a means of teaching them the perils of poor dental hygiene.     Unfortunately, it seem D has inherited my poor teeth.      Every visit to the dentist has included having his teeth sealed because of tiny holes.     At the age of 8 he has already had to have fillings, something not to be proud of.   For a while he has been complaining of sensitivity when eating, to the point where he refuses very cold drinks, and ice-cream.     Then for a couple of days he has been complaining about a pain running from his ear along his jaw.      We managed to get him an emergency dental appointment, and luckily with our regular dentist, who is absolutely brilliant and understanding with both boys about their autism – he will do any work in short burst, after having explained in great detail what it is he will be doing.         D went to the appointment with his Dad, and he said D was brilliant.    The dentist was only running about 10 minutes late – because neither boy like to be kept waiting, and because the dentist is always running very late, we have made it into a bit of a joke and game when we go, as to guessing how late he will be, and Hubby said D was very good saying exactly where the pain was.    He came home with a temporary filling, and a 40 minute follow-up appointment!         It seems he has an inflamed gum, probably a piece of food has got wedged between his tooth and gum, and this is what has been causing his face ache.      The dentist will be doing a deep clean for him during the long appointment – I can honestly say, that I am not looking forward to that!

For now though he has to do salt water mouth washes, and be supervised when cleaning his teeth.     I am hoping this will be a wake up call to him about making sure his teeth are cleaned properly at all times.    He is young enough to get the habit of tooth hygiene right before he ends up with the years of dental appointments I have endured.

Keep Smiling!!!



Halfway point!


We have reached the halfway point of the summer holidays.         With the English schools only just breaking up, and so the summer holiday buzz only just beginning, it seems strange to be saying we are now on the downward side of the hill.

I spend a great deal of time planning our time so the boys have an idea of what is going on.     Not all of our planned activities are set in stone, so as to give us some flexibility to adapt to weather conditions or new ideas thrown into the pot.     We do however have something that have to be booked or organised in advance.

The first week of the holidays, we went away to Haven – anyone who has read any of my previous posts about holidays will know this is our type of holiday of choice because it gives the boys some idea of familiarity, while giving us the opportunity to visit different parts of the country.      We were in the Lake District, one of the most beautiful parts of the England.   The weather was kind to us, with sunny days and rainy nights!       We went to various places in and around, and had a fabulous time.

We then had a few planned down days when we got home.    A chance to process the events of the previous week and file them in the correct place in the brains of my wee boys.       We know when this is done, because they  start asking what we are doing that day.

We have had days out.   We met up with some other families from SafeSpace – the local additional needs family support group.   My boys though were anything but friendly, and decided they didn’t want to look around the farm with everyone else.   It was however good to have some human contact, even if it was just for a short time!

We went to look for the dolphins at Aberdeen harbour.     It is apparently one of the best places to see bottle nosed dolphins, but they weren’t out playing for us to see.   I am sure we will go looking again in the next few weeks.   The boys did use the opportunity to do some rock pooling while we were in that area, but the only thing that was found was the right leg of a Masaurous – M slipped and got very agitated as he was soaked through!

We have been swimming, visiting the new aquatic centre in Aberdeen.    It is the most amazing facility.      The pool we were in has a movable floor so they can change the depth of the water depending on the activity.     We were there with the additional needs summer programme the council runs.     It was brilliant, with an hour of games and general fun in the pool, and at a depth of just 1m, even M was happy – his swimming is getting really good, but he does get panicky if he can’t touch the bottom.

We have been to the cinema to see The Minions – I highly recommend it to parents and normal adults!!

We’ve been out and about in the countryside around here, including a fabulous guided walk with the head gardener at Drum Castle –       It was really interesting to see things that we probably wouldn’t have noticed if we had been visiting by ourselves.     If National Trust properties near you do guided walks, I think they are well worth looking at because the people working the estates are a mind of amazing information.

D has had his usual busy social life, attending parties, and being out with his chums.     M has been becoming closer with a boy who is in his year at school, and I believe they are in the same class when they go back.     They communicate online and play together at Minecraft.     The boy has also become friends with D online.     The child has visited the house now, and is really nice.     He is not so in your face as many of the other kids their age, and that is probably why M can tolerate his company – that might sound a harsh way of describing their friendship, but that is how it evolves for M.    When the boy has come over with other children, he is more boisterous, and M seems to withdraw both physically and mentally.

So we only have to get through another couple of weeks.     We have many days planned, but also down time for adhoc adventures.

M has been very calm so far this holidays.    He isn’t as yet talking about returning to school, and while we have to prepare him for it, we will enjoy his calmness at the moment.

D on the other hand has been miserable.     His mood swings are far more pronounced.     He is already telling us he will not be returning to school in August.   He doesn’t see the point of going back as it just wont be the same without his beloved teacher – I am sure his new teacher will be good, but there will probably never be another Mrs B in his life, as he connected with her, and she inspired him to want to achieve for her.       Again we are not talking about it too much.     Why start a conversation you know will end up with a very angry child?!    He has an appointment with child mental health next week, as we try to look for ways to help him deal with his aggression, both verbal and physical.       I think if we could get some guidance for building strategies, it will help all of us – even he says he doesn’t like being angry all the time.

So the holidays are going well so far.     Hopefully we will all still be feeling the same way on 18th august!!!!!

The Minion Movie


One of the most awaited films of the year with our household has been the Minion movie.     I must say when I first heard that they were making a film with just the Minions, I was not too sure about the idea, but I love the little yellow guys and so was excited by the idea.    It arrived in cinemas in June, and the boys – and me, were desperate to see it.      M actually wanted to go opening day, something he has never asked to do for previous films!     We did however manage to discourage seeing it when it was freshly released as we knew how busy the audience would be, and that would have been more than a little upsetting for both boys.      So a month on and we finally went to the cinema to see it.

Usually when I have been anticipating a film, it has problems living up to these expectations.      The Minions though did not let me down – oh, and the boys were really impressed too.

M kept telling us that someone in his class had told him it was Despicable Me 3, and so we had quite an in-depth conversation trying to explain what a prequel was, and why it can not just be an enjoyable story in its own right, but that it can add to the films you have already seen which actually come later in the story – yes, it is a complicated concept to someone with a logical brain!       He then became upset that we had ruined the movie.   Why I asked.     We had been reading the book.       We have started reading the junior novel of the story – its great because D is at a stage where he can read most of it with confidence, and M can follow it and read some of it, they also love reading books together that I can read in silly voices – the things we do as parents to engage our kids!!!!       I explained to him that we had only read the beginning of the book, and so I don’t think we had ruined too many surprises.

COnsidering the film had been out a month, I was really surprised as to how busy the theatre was.   We took our seats, and M was really flappy – I think he had been looking forward to it for so long that he was an emotional mess about how to react to it.

Not wanting to give away any of the plot to anyone who has yet to see it, I will skim over the actual detail.      The story is needless to say totally laugh out loud, both kids and adults alike were  chortling for a lot of the film.     There was no bad language, the violence was of a totally cartoon nature, and it was perfect.       We cheered on our three heroes as they looked for an evil master to follow.         I don’t think I am giving anything away when I say when they finally met Gru, there was a real sense of satisfaction.        We know Gru is evil at the start of Despicable Me, and we know the Minions are devoted to him, so to see them unite was perfect.

Sandra Bullock may be the named start of the film, but it is the animators that have made us love these little yellow guys that are amazing.

The funnies during the closing credits were well worth not rushing out of the auditorium for, and quite an insight into the growing relationship between Gru and his devotees.

Would I recommend the film?     Oh yes!    M hadn’t even left his seat at the end, when he asked if we could buy the DVD when it is released – always a sure-fire answer to if he has enjoyed it.      I was certainly not disappointed, and the way both boys have retold the film since seeing it tells us they too feel the makers did the character proud.

Go Kevin!    Go King Bob!    Go Stu!    GO MINIONS!!!!!